Deb Sofield

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Hope for the New Year

It’s funny, but when I think about repeating myself I am reminded of a quick story. When I wrote my first book, “Speak Without Fear,” my editor said, “Deb, do you know you repeat yourself on the big ideas you have in the book?” to which I replied, “It’s because no one listens, so you have to say it over and over and in different ways,” which is fine for speaking, but not such a good idea for a book. I am in hopes that my second book, “Powerful People Take Up Physical Space,” will be out in a few […]

The Blessing of Rest… A New Year’s Resolution

Dear Reader – please note this show was produced in 2015 but I wanted to share it along with my other shows. I don’t know about you, but I’m often asked about New Year’s Resolutions: Do I make them? Do I keep them? Or do I do nothing? And the answer is…a little bit of all of them. I know this week’s show is a few days before the New Year, but I wanted to check in and see, if you don’t have a New Year’s resolution, if I could convince you to consider my resolution for the new year, […]

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year

As I thinking about what to give as a word of encouragement this week I wanted to share something that would be uplifting and not just educational or a training session so when I found the first part of this poem by Ralph Waldo Emerson I knew I had landed on my thought for this weekend before Christmas. Friend, this year – Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. That means that everyday all 365 of them coming you have a chance to write a different story, sing a different song and […]

By being yourself, you put something wonderful in the world that was not there before.

Dr. Myles Munroe was a well-known pastor, speaker and teacher. Dr. Munroe was known for saying The greatest tragedy in life is not death, but a life without purpose. Dr. Munroe’s words live on because he spoke the truth about life, and the reality is that a life without purpose is a sad way to live. As we come into this holiday season, I am keenly aware that these early evenings, very dark nights, colder days and seemingly more quiet times appear to be cause for great personal reflection, that for some, if you don’t guard your thoughts and keep […]

I choose to live by choice, not by chance

I choose to live by choice, not by chance~ Miranda Marrott I came across this quote online the other day and I really like it for this Christmas season because it puts in place what I consider the realities of life – the simple facts that are truth for so many of us…and what I like is as I read through the list, I believe you’ll come to understand the proper steps for our success…meaning that you (and I) need to choose… I choose                                                           To live by choice, not by chance; To make changes, not excuses; To be motived, not […]

Don’t Worry About Tomorrow

Don’t Worry About Tomorrow Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matt. 6:34 As I prepare for the holidays I am constantly reminded of a verse I grew up with. It goes like this, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Now, although that does not appear to be the most comforting verse I’ve ever read, it is more true than not, and, with that knowledge in hand, I can rest assured that what will […]

Your Story isn’t Over Yet

Your story isn’t over yet. In praise of the humble semicolon I know it seems odd to write a post about a punctuation mark, but recently I was at a restaurant and my waiter had a very pronounced semicolon tattooed on his arm and I asked about it. He told me that the semicolon is now the symbol to recognize those who have struggled with depression, anxiety, addiction and/or suicidal thoughts. I had not heard about this trend of using the semicolon as a symbol of hope. The waiter went on to explain that the semicolon represents “…a sentence the […]

A Little Bit of Kindness

“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.” –Henry James “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” –Plato It doesn’t take much to show a little bit of kindness, and if there ever was a time that your city, your community, your family and your friends need that smidgen of love, friend, it is now. We all need a little bit of kindness. It doesn’t take much, but it does take some work in advance to make sure […]

Be gentle with everyone you meet

If there is one thing I have learned in life it is this, Be gentle with everyone you meet–you have no idea what has happened to them on their life journey. As most of you know, I am a speaker. I stand before audiences of 100 to 1,000 on any given week, and it never fails–really, it never fails–that someone who looks like a million bucks or who is the life of the party or who carries themselves with such apparent ease is the one who carries the deepest scars. Over the years, I think I’ve developed something like a […]