Deb Sofield

Life lessons

A Word After A Word After A Word is Power

“A word after a word after a word is power.” – Margaret Atwood I have really come to believe that what you say to yourself about yourself is vitally important. I’m not sure I can prove it scientifically, but it just seems to me if you are not careful with the words you use when thinking about your skills and abilities and knowledge base you will undo years of education, years of building yourself up and years of acceptance of the praise of others who see a spark of brightness in you. With the new year upon us, I will […]

She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails.

Let me be the first to welcome you to the New Year. I am excited because I fully believe this is going to be a good year – in spite of all the predictions, politics, and pundits… I believe in the message that I shared last week about Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year…so with this in mind at this time in the lull between the holidays it is a good time to survey your life and if needed – let’s adjust your sails so every day is the best day […]

Why You Gotta Be So Mean?

“Get your big fat a__ in here” those are the words a client of mine recently heard from her grandmother. I can only assume the grandmother didn’t measure the damage of her words. I’m sure grandma thought she was being funny. She wasn’t. Weeks later my client can repeat that stinging phrase that hurt to the bone and the worst part is now every time she looks in the mirror, she will hear those words from the person who is supposed to show unconditional love – the grandparent. We all know that people says things to hurt – on purpose, […]

Who set your boundaries?

As I walked along the fence I came upon this marker… Boundary of the United States It’s an imposing marker set into the fence line between America and Mexico. One can easily scale the fence or swim around the jetty in the ocean but even if you cross over willingly… or not… you’ve now crossed a boarder – a boundary line that either keeps you in or keeps you out. It makes me wonder, “Who set your boundaries? Have you limited yourself? Are on the wrong side of the fence”. The concept of boundaries frustrates me – who gets to […]

What Will You Do Next? part 1 of 3

In this blog post let’s look at the first of my three lessons for survival. Keep Working. The hardest thing you will do is to keep working on your dreams and goals. Granted it may be a smaller venue than you had hoped for but I have seen and learned by being on the stage myself… sometimes in a smaller more intimate setting you will bond with your audience in a way that your old self and style would not allow and once they see you – just as you are – many times they will become raving fanatical fans […]

What will do you Next… continued

In my earlier blog I wrote about a pattern I see happening a lot these days – people who start well but somehow fall off of the track and don’t seem to know how to get their mojo back. Their failure is due to a miscommunication about one of the hardest questions they do not ask, which is What Will You Do Next…. So to answer the question… here is my million-dollar advice. It is very simple and yet one of the hardest things to do. Ready… My advice is this that you learn to Move Really… You have to […]

What Will You Do Next?

Have you thought about it? In this economy and in these times have you thought about, What Will You Do Next? I doubt you have and that’s okay as long as you take a few minutes NOW to reflect on that phrase and answer it… not for me, but for you. As a presentations coach, I prepare people for their big day, their big speech, their big debut as they step into the light. But I would be remiss, as their friend, if I didn’t look out across landscape of their life and yell into the vastness of what could […]