“The secret to getting ahead is getting started” — Mark Twain Sometimes, I feel like a broken record when I remind my friends and family that the secret to getting ahead is getting started and that they need to get started to begin the process of creating a path to where they want to go. I have come to believe that the hardest word in the English language just might be “start.” Seriously, a five-letter word is the difference between you heading in the direction of your dreams or you being exactly in the same place where you are today […]
Life lessons
Walking through the rooms of our lives – not looking for flaws, but for potential
“We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives…not looking for flaws, but for potential.” – Ellen Goodman. I like the idea that this year, we’ll look forward not to the work to be done or cracks to be patched. No, we’re done looking for flaws, let’s look for potential. And isn’t that what a new year is all about – Potential? Webster’s defines Potential as – existing […]
Don’t forget that you’re human…
Well, friends, you survived the holidays, and now it’s a new year—a fresh start—and you have a great chance to start over and begin anew. So, what will it be this year? What new ideas do you have? What new places will you visit? What new adventures will you try, and what will you leave behind? What problem or, issue, or circumstance will you make a clean break from so you can start with a clean slate? What? You’ve not thought about leaving the old and finding the great adventures that this new year will afford you? Wait for a […]
A Word After A Word After A Word is Power
“A word after a word after a word is power.” – Margaret Atwood I have really come to believe that what you say to yourself about yourself is vitally important. I’m not sure I can prove it scientifically, but it just seems to me if you are not careful with the words you use when thinking about your skills, abilities, and knowledge base, you will undo years of education, years of building yourself up, and years of acceptance of the praise of others who see a spark of brightness in you. With the new year upon us, I will have […]
She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails.
Let me be the first to welcome you to the New Year. I am excited because I fully believe this is going to be a good year – despite all the predictions, politics, and pundits… I believe in the message that I shared about Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year…so with this in mind, at this time in the lull between the holidays, it is a good time to survey your life and if needed – let’s adjust your sails so every day is the best day in the year. One […]
Why You Gotta Be So Mean?
I will never forgot the tears she shed when she told me about her weekend at her grandmother’s home for the holidays. “Get your big fat a__ in here” those are the words a client of mine recently heard from her grandmother. I can only assume the grandmother didn’t measure the damage of her words. I’m sure grandma thought she was being funny. She wasn’t. Weeks later my client can repeat that stinging phrase that hurt to the bone and the worst part is now every time she looks in the mirror, she will hear those words from the person […]
Who set your boundaries?
As I walked along the fence I came upon this marker… Boundary of the United States It’s an imposing marker set into the fence line between America and Mexico. One can easily scale the fence or swim around the jetty in the ocean but even if you cross over willingly… or not… you’ve now crossed a boarder – a boundary line that either keeps you in or keeps you out. It makes me wonder, “Who set your boundaries? Have you limited yourself? Are on the wrong side of the fence”. The concept of boundaries frustrates me – who gets to […]
What Will You Do Next? part 1 of 3
In this blog post let’s look at the first of my three lessons for survival. Keep Working. The hardest thing you will do is to keep working on your dreams and goals. Granted it may be a smaller venue than you had hoped for but I have seen and learned by being on the stage myself… sometimes in a smaller more intimate setting you will bond with your audience in a way that your old self and style would not allow and once they see you – just as you are – many times they will become raving fanatical fans […]
What will do you Next… continued
In my earlier blog I wrote about a pattern I see happening a lot these days – people who start well but somehow fall off of the track and don’t seem to know how to get their mojo back. Their failure is due to a miscommunication about one of the hardest questions they do not ask, which is What Will You Do Next…. So to answer the question… here is my million-dollar advice. It is very simple and yet one of the hardest things to do. Ready… My advice is this that you learn to Move Really… You have to […]
