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Running Away From Your Problems Is A Race You’ll Never Win

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve really tried to keep myself out of trouble, and I’m doing pretty well, thank goodness! It’s not that I go looking for trouble, but sometimes it seems to find me, usually because of something I said, or it was something someone said I had said. So, I have had to be more careful because I don’t want to hurt anyone, and I don’t want to cause harm. I want to be thought of as a kind person. But often, I look around and see that some of my peers, friends, and colleagues seem to look

Givers Need to Set Limits

Givers Need to Set Limits because Takers Never Do. I recently saw an interesting video about a man who taped $1 and $5 bills, and possibly a $10 or two, to his jacket and walked around with a sign that said, “Take what you need.” Now, obviously, someone was videotaping the street interaction, and because the guy was wearing a microphone, you could hear his conversation as people read his sign, looked at him questioningly, and then, hesitantly, took a few bills. All the while, he would say to people, as he walked up and down the street, to… “Go

Living to Your Full Potential

I am sure you’ve heard it 100 times that you should live up to your full potential, and although I believe that is true, I’ve to ask: what does that mean for you? Have you ever thought about your “full potential,” meaning is there something that you’d give your all to, holding nothing back and being empty when you’re finished, only to refresh yourself and start over? If you were to look online, most of the sites that deal with living to your full potential are about leading and living your life fully in the 7 Major Areas: Physically, Mentally,

Our Heads Are Round So Our Thoughts Can Change Direction

“Our heads are round, so our thoughts can change direction.” Francis Picabia Rule number one. You have the right to change your mind. Rule number two. Read and act on rule number one…always. If you were to ask me what I find most interesting at this stage of my life, it is this. When someone sees the other side of an issue or learns something new or over time decides that certain things don’t matter as much as they thought, and then, through careful consideration and reflection, they make a decision to change their mind about an issue, theory or

You’ll Never Be The Same Again

You’ll Never Be the Same Again Steve Jobs said, “When you grow up, you tend to get told the world is the way it is, and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family, have fun, and save a little money. That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact: Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you, and you can change it, you can

When Unsure, Take the Next Logical Step

Last year, I spent a lot of time encouraging you to chart a new course and get out of your comfort zone—learn to live the life you imagined and were born to do, big and small things, to move you down the path of life that would bring joy in big and small ways. Life is short, and I firmly believe that you have to take the reins and get going, or you’ll miss out on some great opportunities, or someone else will take your space, perhaps while you’re sitting around waiting. You may even lose interest, and then you’re

So What Is Your Super Power

Now that New Year’s resolutions are behind us, let’s consider something we can do that could be the key to an amazing year, if not for ourselves, then for others who may need us. I wrote in an earlier post about choosing a word to define the different areas of your life that you would like to change. The one I hear most often is that many people say they want to enjoy life to the fullest, so consider a word that would serve as your anchor to remind you of your commitment to enjoying life. The word I would choose

The Secret To Getting Ahead Is Getting Started

“The secret to getting ahead is getting started” — Mark Twain Sometimes, I feel like a broken record when I remind my friends and family that the secret to getting ahead is getting started, and that they need to get started to begin the process of creating a path to where they want to go. I have come to believe that the hardest word in the English language just might be “start.” Seriously, a five-letter word is the difference between you heading in the direction of your dreams or you being exactly in the same place where you are today

Walking Through The Rooms of Our Lives – Not Looking for Flaws, but for Potential

“We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives…not looking for flaws, but for potential.” – Ellen Goodman. I like the idea that this year, we’ll look forward not to the work to be done or cracks to be patched. No, we’re done looking for flaws; let’s look for potential. And isn’t that what a new year is all about – Potential? Webster’s defines Potential as “existing in

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