Hi, Deb Sofield here, thanks for coming to my site. I’m known in the industry as three things: a dynamic keynote speaker, an author and a coach. I love the opportunities I have to help people find their voice and learn to use it for their success. I believe that once you learn the skills to Speak without Fear it will change your life. Once you develop the confidence that your message needs to be heard, that you are the best voice for your message and that you have the ability to speak, you can change the world. [read more...]
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“We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives…not looking for flaws, but for potential.” Ellen Goodman
May Light always surround you; Hope kindle and rebound you.
May your Hurts turn to Healing; Your Heart embrace Feeling.
May Wounds become Wisdom; Every Kindness a Prism.
May Laughter infect you; Your Passion resurrect you.
May Goodness inspire your Deepest Desires.
Through all that you Reach For, May your arms Never Tire.” D. Simone
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About this Blog // Lighting your world one word at a time
I have had a lot of different experiences in my life and have taken chances that on the outside might not have seemed so smart. Okay they probably weren’t so smart on the inside either, but who knew? I jumped in anyway because I have this theory about life—you’ve got to go and do what you want to do in case the world changes and those one-time opportunities disappear. I fundamentally believe that we are not meant to live a boring life. This world is too big, too amazing, too discoverable for me (or you) to sit at home and not experience it.
My cousin posted on Facebook a quote that I put on my page. It says, “Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.” That is the truth. And it’s not just travel to other countries but perhaps a new adventure close to home that make memories for a lifetime.
Growing up I knew that if I made a mistake that I was young enough to survive the fall, whether it was financial, emotional, and physical. I always figured if my big idea didn’t work out (or if none of my ideas worked out) I was young enough that I could start again without much loss of time, energy or money. Oh the good old days – now, since I have reached a milestone in my age on this amazing earth, I tend to think a little more about my future.
My friend Lisa gave me a plaque when she sensed that I was struggling to make a decision about an opportunity that had presented itself. On this plaque was a wild-haired girl jumping over a fire. The plaque read, “this is faith – and this is leap of faith.” I always liked that little plaque.It reminds me that living the life of comfort and ease won’t provide the heart-stopping thrill of landing your first airplane or getting up for the first time on your water skis or riding the world’s longest escalator.
The plaque also reminds me that sometimes there are problems or issues that you can’t lightly step over. You’d be better off to leap over it so you don’t die a slow burn. The fact is for most of us the fire will always be there, but how we get across is the journey we write home about. And you know instinctively that once you make that leap you’ve now done something big.
Having the courage to make a leap of faith probably is not an everyday occurrence. In fact, if you’re having to do it often you might need to stop and see what is driving the need to remove yourself from situations in such a grand fashion.
I came across a quote from Margaret Shepard years ago and I have kept it on my computer as a reminder of life: “Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith.”
I love that quote because in my own life it has been true and I am sure it has been true for you. Admit it, sometimes you’ve had to jump and pray that there would be a ledge or limb or line that would catch you.
I had some interesting speaking engagements recently and it brought to mind this saying: Attract what you expect, reflect what you desire, become what you respect, and mirror what you admire.
In Pennsylvania, I was speaking to those who are planning on running for public office. I teach Your Campaign Speech and how to engage your audience to listen to your message. And in Maryland, I had the wonderful opportunity to speak at the Spouse Program for the Republican members of Congress. I must say they were both wonderful groups to spend time with and my thought for today is a direct result of what I saw that week. If you’re in public office or would like to be, if you run a corporation or would like to you if you plan to run a non-profit that can survive in these tough times, you need to learn the skills that will set you apart from others. At the top of that list is the ability to speak and be heard and seen in the quiet and the noise. Otherwise friend, you’ll never make it to the finish line in the hard race for success.
Many of the folks with whom I work discovered that success in life or politics or business is dependent on attracting what they expected, reflecting what they desired, becoming who they respected, and learning to mirror what they admired. You know, when you think about it, it’s an interesting thought that you can attract what you expect.
Everyday I expect good things. I look at the bright side, not because I am Pollyanna but because I don’t like the darkness of negativity. By changing myself to be more positive (even when I don’t feel like it) or to perhaps be more kind than feel, I have reaped rewards. Rewards such as being around people who also expect great things with a positive bent to be better, stronger, kinder than perhaps our natural nature would provide. Change is good – hard but good for most of us.
If you were to attract what you expect what would happen? I think it goes to the heart of expectation. What great or small expectation do you have for yourself or for others?
How do you see yourself? Not your glorified ego self but really your true self—you know the one that shows up when your doing nothing or in your spare time or when you least expect it because if you see yourself as a helper, healer, or hero – you become that and more…
How many times have you fallen back into an old habit or pattern because you answered the call of your past? You know you should not have pick up the proverbial phone, but you did and then you said hello and now you’re dealing with the aftermath.
I’m encouraging you today to say good-bye and leave your past behind you as you move forward. I think it is interesting that so many people I talk with have this same pull – it’s like spider web that seems to draw many back when they have come so far. It’s odd in a way that the stickiness of your past is hard to unglue in the present…
But it wouldn’t be if you had just not answered the phone. Friends, let me remind you that, when your past calls – don’t answer it has nothing new to say.
And the reason it has nothing new to say is that you are not that same person. You are not the same person who made those mistake years, months, days, hours, minutes ago. Now you may be making new mistakes but that’s a talk for another day.
Life is movement forward unless you like to live in the past.
And some people I have met along my journey do like to live in the past. For some it might have been their glory days, you know when you play football without your knees hurting, or you could sing without your voice cracking or you were student body president and did great things, years ago. For some remembering your past is all right – just don’t live there because that is not your future.
And those who have a past that is less than stellar, why oh why have your brought it along with you? Leave it behind and even if it calls, don’t answer. Why? Because it has nothing new to say.
I know that in some circles it is considered spiritual or healing or good for your soul to keep digging up old bones and chewing on ‘em again. But that is not for me and, I trust, after our talk today you will realize that is not for you or anyone you know. Unless you glance back and learn from a mistake you are just going to be staring at a damaged or empty past; that does you no good.
And allow me to mention for you who are of the faith community, once forgiven you have no need to go back and relive the muddy days – that’s an insult, and you know it. Friends, we all make mistakes that we’re sorry for but if you don’t move past it and settle it, forgive it and forget it, you are only hurting your soul and spirit.
If someone treats you badly, just remember that there is something wrong with them, not you. Normal people don’t go around destroying other people. Never let someone with the significance of a speed bump become a roadblock in your life!