Last year I spent a lot of time encouraging you to chart a new course and get out of your comfort zone—learn to live the life you imagined and were born to do, big and small things, to move you down the path of life that would bring joy in big and small ways. Life is short, and I fully believe you have to take the reins and get going or you’re going to miss out on some great opportunities or someone else will take your space, maybe while you’re sitting around waiting. You may even lose interest and then […]
Leadership
So What Is Your Super Power
Now that New Year’s resolutions are about over, let’s think about something we can do that could be the key to an amazing year, if not for yourself, then for others who probably need you. I wrote last week about choosing a word to define the different areas of your life that you would like to change. The one I heard the most is that many people say they want to enjoy life to the fullest, so think about a word that would be your anchor to remind you of your commitment to enjoying life. The word I would choose […]
The secret to getting ahead is getting started
“The secret to getting ahead is getting started”– Mark Twain Sometimes I feel like a broken record when I remind my friends and family that the secret to getting ahead is getting started and that they need to get started to begin the process of creating a path to where they want to go. I have come to believe that the hardest word in the English language just might be “start.” Seriously, a five-letter word is the difference between you heading in the direction of your dreams or you being exactly in the same place where you are today one […]
Don’t forget that you’re human…
Well, friends, you survived the holidays and now it’s a new year—a fresh start—and you have a great chance to start over and begin anew. So what will it be this year? What new ideas do you have? What new places will you visit? What new adventures will you try, and what will you leave behind? What problem or issue or circumstance will you make a clean break from so you can start with a clean slate? What? You’ve not thought about leaving the old and finding the great adventures that this new year will afford you? Wait a second, […]
A Word After A Word After A Word is Power
“A word after a word after a word is power.” – Margaret Atwood I have really come to believe that what you say to yourself about yourself is vitally important. I’m not sure I can prove it scientifically, but it just seems to me if you are not careful with the words you use when thinking about your skills and abilities and knowledge base you will undo years of education, years of building yourself up and years of acceptance of the praise of others who see a spark of brightness in you. With the new year upon us, I will […]
She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails.
Let me be the first to welcome you to the New Year. I am excited because I fully believe this is going to be a good year – in spite of all the predictions, politics, and pundits… I believe in the message that I shared last week about Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year…so with this in mind at this time in the lull between the holidays it is a good time to survey your life and if needed – let’s adjust your sails so every day is the best day […]
Why You Gotta Be So Mean?
“Get your big fat a__ in here” those are the words a client of mine recently heard from her grandmother. I can only assume the grandmother didn’t measure the damage of her words. I’m sure grandma thought she was being funny. She wasn’t. Weeks later my client can repeat that stinging phrase that hurt to the bone and the worst part is now every time she looks in the mirror, she will hear those words from the person who is supposed to show unconditional love – the grandparent. We all know that people says things to hurt – on purpose, […]
Who set your boundaries?
As I walked along the fence I came upon this marker… Boundary of the United States It’s an imposing marker set into the fence line between America and Mexico. One can easily scale the fence or swim around the jetty in the ocean but even if you cross over willingly… or not… you’ve now crossed a boarder – a boundary line that either keeps you in or keeps you out. It makes me wonder, “Who set your boundaries? Have you limited yourself? Are on the wrong side of the fence”. The concept of boundaries frustrates me – who gets to […]
Acknowledge With Graciousness – Deb’s Ah-Ha Moment
If you have ever heard me speak you probably know this story of an Ah-Ha moment in my life – which I will never forget. A number years ago I was speaking at a conference for judges and lawyers and the luncheon speaker was a lady from a presidential administration (I didn’t care for) and from what I had seen of her tenure I was also unimpressed by her and was not interested in hearing her speak. I only went to the luncheon to eat the free chicken lunch – then I was going shopping. Unfortunately, I could not exit the room before […]